Build your House on a Strong Foundation

My life is a kind of twist and turn, some ups and downs. I've been through a lot of pains, worries, heartbreaks, confusion and everything that made my life turns left and right. In short, I have no direction. I felt how weak I am.

Don't get me wrong, somehow I made it through my life, I'm not totally wasted, I was able to go back to school and finished my studies, enhanced my skills and get a career in a government service that I can say is a stable one until I get 65 years old.

My family and friends think I am successful. Eventhough I had a break up with my last boyfriend, I am able to surpass and survive living my life without him.

And I came to realize that this is the only time that I am not in any relationship with any man since I had my first boyfriend when I was 18 years old. We got married when I turned 23 years old due to my pregnancy with my son.

And, that was the age when you're still trying to figure out how to become successful in life. Me and my husband doesn't have the same priorities or goals in life. I am the aggressive one who will do everything to follow my dreams while he is the happy-go-lucky guy that is contented with what he just only have as long as there were some beers, cigarettes and friends to be around, and maybe sometimes some gals to be with.

And these became the cause of my thought "Am I happy with this kind of life with my husband?" so then, I kept searching for the happiness that I wanted to have in my life. I know in myself that it is not the kind of life I wanted to live.

Until I met a man, 26 years older than me...the man I thought who would change everything for me in my life. Someone who would lift me up, my status and my dignity. He promised every good things to me that he might do in my life, either be it big or small, like acquiring my own house and lot through him, will be helping me send my son to a very exclusive school, to take care of me, etc. Well, I was so overwhelmed by this man aside from his status and experience in life, I was very overwhelmed by all of his good intentions for me. I was 24 years old back then.

In short, I left my husband and fell over this new man in my life. What I never had and saw in my husband, I saw in this man, well, I thought I will. The confidence, inspiration, sweet words, were just some I had which I enjoyed from him.

Then, I saw some red flags along our relationship. It is a very tough relationship. I just ignored those red flags because I think I was wrong of judging him because of that small act, you know, you will try to find a way to make him appear good in your eyes so not to ruin the relationship.

It was only after 16 years of meaningless relationship that I held onto that I was able to realized that this man I have trusted and believed is just a narcissist. I was love-bombed at the beginning but the end is empty. All of those promises are nothing but empty promises, deceit, lies. I felt like I played with an evil's strategy to ruin me and my life. And along the way of this meaningless relationship are secrets of him having multiple affairs with other women behind my back.

I built myself making my man the foundation of my whole life.

These men became my whole world during the time that I am with them. These men became the meaning of my life. These men became the reason of my life. I built myself on a very weak foundation. So when the storm came, I was devastated, I was ruined, I was broken and left with NOTHING.

I am 40 years old now and living my life with no one. I find it more peaceful to be with myself after those long years of having a man.

Until I knew Jesus. His love that was already given to us. The love we always try to find in other people - with other men or women, in family, parents, siblings, friends, etc. And so when the time came they were gone, we got ruined.

And this is the time that I wanted to build myself back again. I wanted to establish myself and start my whole life again. But this time, I wanted to start my life with a strong foundation, that whatever storm will come into my life, my foundation will never be broken, nothing can break my foundation because my foundation is Jesus. 

I wanted Jesus to be the reason of my living for He is the reason that I will have an everlasting life in Paradise. He saved me from my sins that gave me the right to go back to the Father in heaven. And I only realized this after reading the The First Book of Adam and Eve. It was not canonized on the books of the Bible but I learned from that book the reason why Jesus was sent into this world to die for our sins. I can't figure it out before until I read that book. It is like the answer to all my questions and my doubts about God. 

Now, that I knew it, I came to realize how truthful God is to His people. He never missed to fulfill a promise that He made for us. Unlike the men whom I trusted in the past years whom I gave my heart, my time, my life and my trust, just gave me fake and false promises.

Now, I wanted to establish myself and my life back again wherein Jesus is the reason of my living. He is now the foundation of my life for the rest of my time here on earth. Besides, there is nothing to win in this world as everything will get lost along the way one by one at its own time. Only Jesus will remain forever. So, if we are with Jesus, no storm can destroy us because God is forever. His promises are the truth. No hidden agenda, only His love.

People are so stubborn to find this out until it was too late to discover His love and have a relationship with the Lord, a family-like relationship that will last forever.

Amen.

Building on a Solid Foundation

Matthew 7:24-29

24 "Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. 25 Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwater rise and the winds beat against that house, it won't collapse because it is built on bedrock. 26 But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn't obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. 27 When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will collapse with a mighty crash."

28 When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching, 29 for he taught with real authority - quite unlike their teachers of religious law.

How to build a Strong Foundation in life?

We all live with something to dedicate our life with. It can be our loved ones, family, business, career, dreams, ourselves maybe. But, all of these are just temporary, even our own life. Soon, they will all fade away.

So living a life dedicated to these is like living life on a weak foundation because sooner or later, they will be gone.

A strong foundation is a foundation that will lasts forever. And nothing will last forever except for the one who conquer death. And He is Jesus.

Making Jesus our foundation in life means living our life dedicated to Him. And if we dedicate our life to someone we loved most, what we do? We follow them, we give them the best we could, we serve them, shower them with all the good things we have, etc. And Jesus deserves all these because He first gave His everything to us, even His own life so that we may live an everlasting life with God. He lived His life following the will of His Father because He dedicated His life to Him, a very strong foundation which is the Father in heaven.

Living life on a strong foundation is a life lived with no regrets.